the Truth about you

Be Ye Transformed…

Have you heard that verse “be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind?”  Well, as a person thinketh, so is he (or she).  So, what have you been thinking about the most this day?  I want you to take a moment (or several moments) to ponder this question.  What have you been thinking about today – your “problems,” your “mis-takes,” your schedule, your relationship with someone that isn’t going so well, your work, moving, finances, who you have resentment towards right now, or what???  You are totally in charge of what you think, yet I find that only about 1% or less of people get that, they just ruminate about whatever comes to mind and then get upset by it (most likely).  I invite you right now to realize that you always, always have a choice about what you spend your time thinking about.  I have so many people who come to my office, desperate to change, yet completely unaware of what is keeping them stuck.  Guess what is the main reason they stay stuck – they are in a rut – a deep rut – they are going over and over in their minds what they did or didn’t do or what they ate or shouldn’t have eaten, what they said in a note or phone call that might have led to their having no communication with someone at this point…  So many distractions from what they would like to think about and more importantly what they (you) would like to feel.  You are fully in control of what you think and thus what you feel (which of course follows what you think about) yet you don’t seem to get it a lot of the time.  You are in the habit of thinking about what is bothering you the most rather than what would thrill you.  You could be joyous right now, do you think that is possible?  Well, it is, but only if you get more control over what you think at any given moment.  You are so much more powerful than you can imagine, especially right now, when you may be bogged down in the mire of “if only” or “why didn’t I” or “maybe next time” or “when is it ever going to change.”  Guess what, you can turn the corner to a new life right now – remember?  You are transformed by the renewing of your mind.  That means, you are a new person when you commit to thinking about how grateful you are, about how magnificent the Universe is, about how much Love you feel towards …, about the wonderful things that you did this week – acknowledging you, even when no one else notices, about how miraculous so many things are – like a bud opening, a tree changing colors, a child looking to you for attention and you provide it.  You know, you are an amazing being – here in the form of a human but having the mind – if you choose it – of Spirit, of your Essence, your Soul.  You are a one-of-a-kind precious Being that is unrepeatable, power-filled, unique, amazing, astounding and ever-changing (when you choose to be).  How about making a commitment right now to find what is “right” about you rather than what is “wrong” or “unacceptable” or “repugnant” about you?  It is all up to you, whether you focus on the magnificence or on the human “frailties” that you (and everyone of us) can find it we look hard enough.  Who needs to look for the negative when you can feel so much more joy by deciding to look for all that is good and ever so great about you.  Starting now, experiment with listing – on paper if you will, at least in your mind – what YOU know is remarkable about you?  I will be glad to support you in this “project.”  It is essential for the transformation that comes with this renewing of your mind.

the Truth about you

Getting Out of Your Own Way

Here we are, all of us, walking around this universe, many thinking we are mere humans and that is that. Well, we aren’t. Just imagine your not having any hunches, intuition, impulses you knew you had to pay attention to at the time… Where do you think these come from? Your Soul, that exquisite place inside of you that knows, that is wise, that is connected to Spirit, even when you aren’t aware of that connection at all. You are more than flesh, you are more than that body you walk around with, you are more than the thoughts (usually the same ones you had yesterday) you have and the beliefs you carry around as if they are “the truth.” Remember the words “You shall know the Truth and the Truth shall set you free?” Well, the Truth that is referred to here is the Truth of your Being, that you are a Spiritual Being that is in form at this moment. When you get that at a deep level, life changes for you in a profound way. You honor your Self, you listen to your Self, you obey what that tiny voice is telling you at any one time. Yes, you finally get out of your own way enough to let your Soul lead the way. It takes getting still, not just once, or once in a while, but every day, for so many distract themselves from hearing their Inner Being and lose their bearings, lose their way, feel lost, rather empty, floating in a sea of discontent. Don’t you be one of those, for it is a huge waste to neglect what your Soul is saying. I wrote a book called “When Hope Can Kill, How Hope Keeps you with the Wrong Person, Reclaim your Soul for the Right Person” for many reasons. One important one, though, was to write a book about how to reclaim your Soul in relationships. That’s where we most likely first stop listening to our own wisdom, our Soul, and start trying to get the attention, the approval, the love from someone else. It continues into adulthood, having started very early in life. The idea that we must “reclaim” our Soul comes from my knowing that you came in with a pure, beautiful, wise Essence. Along the way you gave It away, let It go, stopped listening to It because it seemed to you more important to do whatever it took to get someone’s (usually a parent’s ) love. “Reclaiming” or “Restoring” your Soul is then about placing your Soul back into Its rightful place – at the Center of your Life. When you do that, you, as a person who feels they have to have someone’s love and approval, gets out of the way and your Soul gets to have full say over what you do and when and how. Now that is exciting, enlivening, and empowering.