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How are you doing with the dwelling?

I wonder if you have considered seriously that dwelling in possibility takes conscious effort?  I have noticed that most people think the same thoughts every day and worry about the same things consistently.  Have you ever thought that you are one of those who do?  You probably don’t see yourself as a person who has such a “silly” habit, but… just observe your thoughts for two days.  Let them be what they usually are, don’t edit.  What have you found?  You, if you are being honest with yourself, most likely worry about the same things, ruminate about the same things, and end up having no conclusions about the same thing at the end of a day?  What about that seems silly?  Maybe nothing, but I imagine that you would like to think of yourself as more creative, more innovative, more of a wise person than what that person connotes as you imagine them.  You are educated, you are enlightened, you are wise, you are tuned in – are those some of the descriptive phrases you would put onto who you are?  However, then there is the reality of what happens in a day, actually everyday.  You fall back into old patterns and think, as you look i that morning mirror – yikes, is that me?  When did I put on that weight, where did that new wrinkle come from, what is happening to me, day after day?  You criticize yourself way before you even leave for your destination.

Notice today, if it is the morning hours when you are reading this, or notice yesterday, if you are taking stock of your thoughts over a two day period.  What are you finding?  No changes are taking place, really, because you haven’t taken action on what is needed – a makeover in the thinking area of your life.  You are stuck in this critical role of yourself.

I invite you to get up tomorrow (whether it is morning now or evening) and look in the mirror using someone who definitely loves you’s eyes.  Who unconditionally loves you?  Who in your life is totally accepting of you – no matter what?  Who says, “stop that negative talk, you are a fabulous person, period.”  It may be a partner, a best friend, a sibling -or- it may be God (Infinite Intelligence, The Source of our Lives, whatever you call It) the one who created you in Its image and likeness.  Can you honestly say that you are not acceptable when you use that person’s eyes (or the eyes of the Presence)?  No way, you begin to stutter or get silent, you certainly don’t continue being like you were before you became consciously aware of this long-held pattern of looking at yourself in the mirror.  Start tonight, start tomorrow, just start having that intense awareness of what you are saying to you – and then most likely – changing it.  Surprising things will begin to occur, startling understanding will emerge, people that said those things to you will come into focus so that you can deal with them.  The invitation is yours, are you going to pick it up and do it?

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Be Ye Transformed…

Have you heard that verse “be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind?”  Well, as a person thinketh, so is he (or she).  So, what have you been thinking about the most this day?  I want you to take a moment (or several moments) to ponder this question.  What have you been thinking about today – your “problems,” your “mis-takes,” your schedule, your relationship with someone that isn’t going so well, your work, moving, finances, who you have resentment towards right now, or what???  You are totally in charge of what you think, yet I find that only about 1% or less of people get that, they just ruminate about whatever comes to mind and then get upset by it (most likely).  I invite you right now to realize that you always, always have a choice about what you spend your time thinking about.  I have so many people who come to my office, desperate to change, yet completely unaware of what is keeping them stuck.  Guess what is the main reason they stay stuck – they are in a rut – a deep rut – they are going over and over in their minds what they did or didn’t do or what they ate or shouldn’t have eaten, what they said in a note or phone call that might have led to their having no communication with someone at this point…  So many distractions from what they would like to think about and more importantly what they (you) would like to feel.  You are fully in control of what you think and thus what you feel (which of course follows what you think about) yet you don’t seem to get it a lot of the time.  You are in the habit of thinking about what is bothering you the most rather than what would thrill you.  You could be joyous right now, do you think that is possible?  Well, it is, but only if you get more control over what you think at any given moment.  You are so much more powerful than you can imagine, especially right now, when you may be bogged down in the mire of “if only” or “why didn’t I” or “maybe next time” or “when is it ever going to change.”  Guess what, you can turn the corner to a new life right now – remember?  You are transformed by the renewing of your mind.  That means, you are a new person when you commit to thinking about how grateful you are, about how magnificent the Universe is, about how much Love you feel towards …, about the wonderful things that you did this week – acknowledging you, even when no one else notices, about how miraculous so many things are – like a bud opening, a tree changing colors, a child looking to you for attention and you provide it.  You know, you are an amazing being – here in the form of a human but having the mind – if you choose it – of Spirit, of your Essence, your Soul.  You are a one-of-a-kind precious Being that is unrepeatable, power-filled, unique, amazing, astounding and ever-changing (when you choose to be).  How about making a commitment right now to find what is “right” about you rather than what is “wrong” or “unacceptable” or “repugnant” about you?  It is all up to you, whether you focus on the magnificence or on the human “frailties” that you (and everyone of us) can find it we look hard enough.  Who needs to look for the negative when you can feel so much more joy by deciding to look for all that is good and ever so great about you.  Starting now, experiment with listing – on paper if you will, at least in your mind – what YOU know is remarkable about you?  I will be glad to support you in this “project.”  It is essential for the transformation that comes with this renewing of your mind.