ego that wanted to be liked

Let out your Self

When you were born, you were only a Soul, a Spirit, a Self.  Soon, you began to develop a false self, a self that was pleasing to caretakers, to all those you deemed necessary to survive.  Thus began the journey of creating that self that is ego, that self that is most likely alienated from the Soul, has no idea about what the Soul may be saying to you at any given moment.  You started acting like you needed to in order to assure you were taken care of, paid attention to, liked.  It expanded, that false self, when you started school.  You then had a larger audience to please.  Yikes, you were bombarded with messages of what was acceptable and what wasn’t.  You, as a Soul, as a Self, got completely lost in all of this deluge of what and who you needed to be.  You had no conscious awareness of it all, you just did what you did in order to have the most likely outcome of “like-ability!” What a job you’ve taken on.  Very few don’t.  I do know some, but very few escape this part of their journey to adulthood.

Now, what is it going to take for you to get back to that original Self, the one that is authentically You?  It is definitely going to take your doing a bit of research on what you are currently doing that is  ”not you.”  Do you even have an inkling of what that is?  Most don’t.  Start by becoming accurately aware of those words coming out of your mouth that smack of “do you like me now?” kind of tone.  Be very conscious of all your actions, all your interactions and see which ones are coming from your inner Core and which ones are coming from practicing what is necessary for those around you to give you attention, to find you acceptable.  

Do you see that others have been defining you for years?  Who are they?  Who are the ones you’ve given over your power to to decide your fate, your personality, your responses to life, to circumstances, to everything.  It won’t take long for you to see that very little of what you say, if anything, is coming from your Soul.  Most, if not all of you, is driven by this need (you think) to be liked, to be accepted, to be popular.  But at what cost, may I ask?  It is so draining to have to be “on guard” all the time, to assess what you say so that you can be sure it will have the correct reactions by those you think you have to please.

When are you planning to live what your Soul came here to experience, tomorrow, next year, in the next decade?  How about now?  What is preventing you from changing now?  Are you too scared?  What is the worst that can happen?  You won’t have any friends, anyone who finds you appealing?  Please, they don’t even know you and you don’t know you, so how can you be sure that your authentic Self won’t be 10 times more appealing than that false self you developed so long ago.  You are still being the self that you created when you were 2 or 3 years old.  How much judgment do they have to decide what is best to be like, what is best to say or do in any one moment?

Take a huge leap of faith and begin to listen to that very quiet voice deep within you that is ready to blossom into a fabulous person that you came into this world to be.  You are an unrepeatable, irreplaceable Being that has unique, one-of-a-kind offering to give the world.  I have told you that before.  It is definitely true.  You must get acquainted with the Soul, though, in order to know what you are to be saying and doing in each moment of  the day.  Ask:  What am I to do now?  Who am I to speak to?  And, about what?  When you are still long enough and have no preconceived notions about what your Soul may be saying, It can speak to you and you will often be astounded at what It may request and require that you do, so that you are living out loud what you came into the world to offer.

I am so excited by the possibility that you may just take me up on this invitation to transform your life.  You can write me anytime and tell me what your Soul is both leading you out of and into as the days emerge.  Let your Soul lead the way, stop trying to outguess it or tell it what you think you need.  Allow the Soul of you to be in charge.  You may be absolutely incredibly blown away by what you find your Self doing, once you start listening carefully to only your Soul.

That Soul of yours has Its own ideas, Its own agenda and Its own voice.  It is unlike anything you have ever heard before and often has ideas you would never have dreamed of considering.  That’s the joy of it all, though.  You are beginning to truly live at that point, not just exist and be at other people’s mercy.

Are you ready?  Begin.