Now, I know there are a few pockets of deep reverence for life that the people I spoke about 2 days ago are experiencing.  I am thrilled.  It certainly moved me to tears.  They know what they are to do, even in the midst of this horror – sing praise for their life, for life itself, for others’ lives.

I want to offer you, those of you who live in the Los Angeles area, a consult with me if you have donated at least $200. to a charity or organization that you know is all going to the people of Haiti.  I have been in practice for over 18 years, am an expert in many areas, have written 2 books, etc, you can read about all that on my website.  Right now, that doesn’t matter except you may want to come more if you know you will get what you walk into my office to receive.  I will give you this free consult for the fee I usually charge patients if that money has gone to Haiti in some direct way.  My website tells you where my offices are and phone number or e-mail to use to let me know you would like to receive this offer.  There just needs to be some way you can assure me you actually did donate this money – so perhaps you can figure out how to show me that was done.

I am of course grateful to all of you who sent anything to these people in their time of great need AND the time of enormous will to live for weeks under the rubble, one or two being recovered just today.  It truly astounds me to hear about these people.  It is inspiring, to say the least, and has me wondering how many people in the world could have done that.  Could you?  Naturally we can’t really answer that unless we get into that same situation at some point.  But, how strong is your desire to live, not just exist, but actually live out loud every ounce of you every moment of your life?

As 56 orphans were flying to the US, none having ever been on a plane before, none knowing about how loud an old military plane can sound, or the turbulence, or…  Did you hear what these 56 children did?  Not one of them cried, not one of them screamed.  Instead, they sang, they were joyous, they knew many spiritual songs and their voices filled the plane with faith, anticipation, gratefulness – for what?  FOR LIFE, FOR A CHANCE TO KEEP LIVING.  

In another part of Haiti a group had gathered at a cemetery.  To cry?  No, to sing spirituals, to praise God that they were alive.  A 15 day old baby was found 8 days after the original earthquake.  How could that be?

It reminds me of a movie I saw many years ago called – The Gods Must Be Crazy.  Did you see that movie?  It was about a coke bottle changing this small island of people who had never heard or seen anything like that. Competition began – we want that bottle, no we want it….  The analogy is that – these people perhaps, in Haiti, have never been introduced to things like “but why don’t I have this” or “how could this happen to me?” or “Life sucks” etc.etc.etc.  I know that baby hadn’t.  I know those orphans hadn’t.  I know that those who were spending their days by the cemetery hadn’t.  

How do I know this?  What would most people you know be doing after such a disaster?  What I became clear about was that, most days we don’t take the time to be grateful for our next breath, for the one we just took, for the privilege of being able to have water whenever we want.  I know that many of you have lived through earthquakes here, downpours of rain, just like last week, but we have lost sight, some of us, of seeing ourselves and each other as Souls filled with the goodness, the joy, the absolute beauty inside and out of people.  Yes, some of us have been very wounded by the cruelty of some, but I know they, the so-called cruel ones, must have been hurt in the past and are taking it out on others, rather than learning how to heal from that great grief they carry. 

My great desire for you (and I trust for yourselves) is that your heart can grow large enough to allow what is to be.  To know that you are doing whatever it is that you are called, by Spirit, not your ego, to do.  You are in charge of what you think (as long as you are conscious of what you are thinking) and you can think “Thank God I am able to walk, to talk, to take a breath, to be generous, to be compassionate, to have the feelings that some are so cut off from.  

I applaud all of you who have taken the time to look at your own life in this past 2 weeks and have seen it from a brand new perspective.  I trust the rest of you can and will.  It is gratifying, to say the least.

Now, what is it going to take for you to get back to that original Self, the one that is authentically You?  It is definitely going to take your doing a bit of research on what you are currently doing that is  ”not you.”  Do you even have an inkling of what that is?  Most don’t.  Start by becoming accurately aware of those words coming out of your mouth that smack of “do you like me now?” kind of tone.  Be very conscious of all your actions, all your interactions and see which ones are coming from your inner Core and which ones are coming from practicing what is necessary for those around you to give you attention, to find you acceptable.  

Do you see that others have been defining you for years?  Who are they?  Who are the ones you’ve given over your power to to decide your fate, your personality, your responses to life, to circumstances, to everything.  It won’t take long for you to see that very little of what you say, if anything, is coming from your Soul.  Most, if not all of you, is driven by this need (you think) to be liked, to be accepted, to be popular.  But at what cost, may I ask?  It is so draining to have to be “on guard” all the time, to assess what you say so that you can be sure it will have the correct reactions by those you think you have to please.

When are you planning to live what your Soul came here to experience, tomorrow, next year, in the next decade?  How about now?  What is preventing you from changing now?  Are you too scared?  What is the worst that can happen?  You won’t have any friends, anyone who finds you appealing?  Please, they don’t even know you and you don’t know you, so how can you be sure that your authentic Self won’t be 10 times more appealing than that false self you developed so long ago.  You are still being the self that you created when you were 2 or 3 years old.  How much judgment do they have to decide what is best to be like, what is best to say or do in any one moment?

Take a huge leap of faith and begin to listen to that very quiet voice deep within you that is ready to blossom into a fabulous person that you came into this world to be.  You are an unrepeatable, irreplaceable Being that has unique, one-of-a-kind offering to give the world.  I have told you that before.  It is definitely true.  You must get acquainted with the Soul, though, in order to know what you are to be saying and doing in each moment of  the day.  Ask:  What am I to do now?  Who am I to speak to?  And, about what?  When you are still long enough and have no preconceived notions about what your Soul may be saying, It can speak to you and you will often be astounded at what It may request and require that you do, so that you are living out loud what you came into the world to offer.

I am so excited by the possibility that you may just take me up on this invitation to transform your life.  You can write me anytime and tell me what your Soul is both leading you out of and into as the days emerge.  Let your Soul lead the way, stop trying to outguess it or tell it what you think you need.  Allow the Soul of you to be in charge.  You may be absolutely incredibly blown away by what you find your Self doing, once you start listening carefully to only your Soul.

That Soul of yours has Its own ideas, Its own agenda and Its own voice.  It is unlike anything you have ever heard before and often has ideas you would never have dreamed of considering.  That’s the joy of it all, though.  You are beginning to truly live at that point, not just exist and be at other people’s mercy.

Are you ready?  Begin.

You are not what you say to yourself, you are a unique, one-of-a-kind precious gift to all the world and are here to do something that only YOU can do.  Wherever the negative words came from, they were NOT true, you must believe me, even though you have spoken (to yourself) these words many years to yourself.  Your Soul has such a different view of you, tune into your deeper Self, that Soul and ask It who you are.  You will hear such wonderful phrases, so many descriptive words that are what you really are.  You are not a piece of junk, a mistake, an unworthy person who happens to inhabit this space at this time.  You are here to do incredible things that only you can do.

However, you must first know who you are, who you truly are, not who “they” said you were – whether those people were your classmates, your caretakers, relatives, teachers, neighbors.  You are NOT what others define you as – you are just NOT.  You may have taken on those labels over time, you may have believed them since you didn’t know to counter them with words you knew to say.  That still doesn’t make them true.  You just took them on like a set of clothes that you borrowed or bought at a second hand store.  

You are here because you have a calling, something that only you are here to do.  So what if you don’t know what that is – yet.  It is so because that is how the world was set up.  You can’t be repeated, if you don’t do what you are here to do, no one else is going to do it, it will just go undone.  That doesn’t make sense, now, does it? 

Come to your senses and ignore your mind for a month, especially in the mornings when you arise.  You are most vulnerable to old tapes when you first wake up.  You aren’t functioning with that enlightened mind that exists deep inside of you.  Wake up to some new music, wake up to words you have heard from me or another wise Soul, but don’t believe that voice inside that criticizes you for outward appearances, for mistakes you made 5 years ago, for what you think is unforgivable that you did when you were in school.  

You are harder on yourself than anyone could ever be, that is just the truth, but you can change that the second you become aware that – just maybe what you are telling yourself about yourself is an old tape that needs to be updated.  You are playing tapes in your head that people who are no longer relevant in your life (even if they were parents) told you at age 6 or 9 or 13 years old.  Do you want to go around with a mind that is still stuck at those ages?  I trust you don’t.  

The first step out of this mudhole is to stop your old tape, observe it, ask if your Soul believes it, and replace that old tape with one that is greatly updated.  What is something you have done in your life that you can be proud of?  Did you complete high school?  Did you go to college or did you get a job, work while you were still in school, find a career you loved by “accident” (there are no accidents)?  What has someone said over the years that thrilled you at that moment, even though your critical voice took it away from you before the hour passed?  

I know absolutely wonderful, fantastic people who are doing incredible work in this world who still have a voice inside that negates 99% if their accomplishments before they can even swallow them.  I’m not saying that accomplishments are the only way to feel great about yourself, either.  You are a human/spiritual being who is absolutely magnificent, no matter what you think you did in the past that erases that truth, it doesn’t.  You have LET what you did or didn’t do (like go to college, not be the perfect parent or partner or worker in a job that you hated) color how you see yourself.  

Have you ever heard of Grace?  Have you ever heard of forgiveness?  You seem to think that you deserve to carry around a large stick and beat yourself as what you deserve since you weren’t the perfect….  You not only deny what forgiveness is but you lay an unneeded burden on yourself that complicates, if not destroys, what you could be doing now.

Update your way of being in this world today.  Stop beating yourself up for something that you did even a week ago.  Forgive yourself, know that others make mistakes and can go right on forging their paths to greatness while you sit in your muck and berate yourself.  What is the purpose of that?  Does it forward you or your calling?  Does it help to assuage your guilt?  NO, it only keeps all the negativity going inside of you.  You are preventing transformation this moment by how you are treating yourself.  Notice what is going on in that mind of yours every day and, if it isn’t positive and forwarding you, give it up.  You needn’t carry old garbage around, thinking you deserve that kind of life or punishment for whatever you did or said or didn’t do. 

What happened in the past is over.  You either asked for forgiveness from those you may have hurt or you need to now and then you must let it go.  Freedom is around that next bend.  Don’t you want to travel lightly upon the earth as you go about doing what you came here to do?  Then, give up all that old stuff you think you must hold onto and set your Soul free to do Its thing.

Your Soul needs to start leading the way in your life.  When you awaken, turn to your Soul and ask It what to say about you – it has some fantastic things to offer you if you only allow It Its voice.  You are not a mistake and you could never do enough “wrongs” to deserve to be punished by your mind.  If you did something really horrible, go to the courts and turn yourself in, otherwise, let yourself alone and turn your life over to your Soul, It will forever bring you Love, Peace, Joy and a new life.  What a gift to get, just by letting go of old guilts, old voices, old critics, old, old stuff that is NOT who you are.

You are not your mistakes, You are rather what your Soul defines you as – an unrepeatable, irreplaceable, indescribable lovely Being who is here to enjoy life and bring fresh energy to all who touch your life and whose lives you touch.

Get into the NOW and stay there.  It is where all is created and manifested.  Shut off those old voices once and for all, the rewards will be obvious and you will be a brand new person.  Be transformed by the renewing of your mind – today.

The other day I was listening to a patient tell me about a situation where they were really confronted with a dilemma.  They cared about this person but had decided that this person was not going to be in their life anymore.  When the person came around, the patient had a huge challenge, should they stay with their decision or be swayed by their feeling “sorry” for the situation this person was in.  The real issue was – this person had been in the same situation for many months and the patient had been “talked into” (in their view) going with what the other person asked instead of their own stand on the event at the moment.  So, the patient was confronted with a conflict – would they fold under the pressure of the other (living from the outside in) or from their own commitment to themselves (living from the inside out).  The patient ended up, that night, giving in to the other person.  The important outcome, though, was that the patient saw that their folding under the pleas of the person did not end up having the patient feel good at all about themselves.  This point is critical to take note of – you, as you transform – will be confronted with many situations where it is hard to decide for yourself what to do – unless you stay firm in your internal knowing that what you have chosen as your stance is where you will live – no matter what.  No matter what means no matter the circumstances, the story that someone is telling you, no matter how many times in the past you have given in to this person, no matter anything.  You respect yourself so much more when you decide that you are only going to live from the inside out, not ever from the outside appearance of something that of course continuously changes.  

This stance may sound selfish to you, self-indulgent even, but it really isn’t.  It is the only way to be in charge of your own life and the path you have chosen to take.  You have been whipped around by the many different situations in your life and especially by those who know what and where your soft spots are.  Even without consciously setting out to do so, the people that have taken advantage of your kindness, your generosity in the past are going to challenge your stance, now that you have taken one.  The way to honor you is to remember all the time what your intention is, your commitment is and your desire to become one who can withstand the pressures that others place on you.

What do you want to accomplish in this life of yours?  Where do you want to go?  Do you want to be in charge of you or allow others to be in charge?  You get to decide and your decision will definitely affect how you end up feeling about you at the end of the day.  Notice your energy when you get home from your job or work out or set of errands.  Are you feeling the way you want to feel?  Did you follow what you set as your intention before you left?  If you did, you most likely will be feeling even more alive, filled with vitality, excited about your life than when you left home.

All of life consists of choices, of course you know that.  The more aware you are of those choices, the more power you have over your day.  I urge you to experiment with living only from the inside out for at least a week, taking notes about what you observed about yourself all along the way.  Then analyze the results and see on which days you felt the most freedom and which days you felt rather down, defeated, had low energy.  The correlation to what you chose will be closely correlated with how you feel at the end of each day.

Become the Center of your own life, that has nothing to do with being selfish, but rather everything to do with who you put in charge of your life.  Let it be You, You, that Spiritual/Human Spectacular Being that you create every moment.  Possibilities unimagined until now will show up as you begin to live a life that is your own, all day and all evening.

Actually, there are two kinds of bulimics, which we are speaking about now, another day I will talk at length about anorexia nervosa but today, it is the bulimic I am describing.  The first kind is drawn to how it feels to get full – they erroneously think that getting full means they are finally feeling fulfilled.  Not a chance is that true, but it feels like it is true, until the next time they feel empty – which is most likely very soon, a day or less.  Then they must do it again, to get that false feeling of fullness.  I once had a bulimic say to me words that I’ll never forget:  ”I will binge to the point of unconsciousness until my Soul is no longer starving.”  Our work together could certainly begin in a deeper way once she had “gotten” it that binging was about a Soul-hunger, not a stomach hunger.  Her Soul was crying out to be listened to, to be honored, to be fed.  Soul-food is very different from regular food, as of course everyone knows. Or do they?  

The other kind of bulimic gets addicted to purging.  That person feels that if they vomit out all the food they had just binged on they would no longer feel the awful feelings they were feeling at that time.  They felt that they would be free of them if they just got rid of them by purging.  Again, not a chance is that true, but ut feels true to them at the moment – every moment- that they go to the food.  ”Maybe this time it will work and I won’t ever have those feelings come up again, or those images, or…”

What is the similarity between these  2 types?  They both have a belief that enough food or enough purging will “cure” them.  That they will never have to deal with emptiness or a myriad of horrid feelings again.  When either of those ways don’t work after awhile, they just do them again, hoping that this time they will have success.

Of course I have only touched on all the complexities of bulimia, but I wanted to bring these particular points up today to have you examine if you or anyone you know is battling with something that does literally take over one’s life.  If so, perhaps awareness will bring a bit of clarity as to what needs to happen next, not repeating the same pattern but interrupting it by getting help.  It doesn’t go away on its own.  It doesn’t solve any issues you may have, it only increased them.

One other thing, it isn’t a good idea for anyone in a family who suspects (or knows) that another member is having this challenge to get in between the bulimia and the behavior you know is going on.  You aren’t the one who can solve this kind of huge issue.  Make a phone call instead.  I have known partners who try to assist with this issue and the relationship suffers because of it.  

No matter how long someone has been having this major challenge, it is very possible for them to recover.  Never think that a person is doomed because they have an addiction of any kind (and I have dealt with really tough ones besides this one).  It is totally possible, with a willingness to reach out, not  for food, but for professional help.

Notice today, if it is the morning hours when you are reading this, or notice yesterday, if you are taking stock of your thoughts over a two day period.  What are you finding?  No changes are taking place, really, because you haven’t taken action on what is needed – a makeover in the thinking area of your life.  You are stuck in this critical role of yourself.

I invite you to get up tomorrow (whether it is morning now or evening) and look in the mirror using someone who definitely loves you’s eyes.  Who unconditionally loves you?  Who in your life is totally accepting of you – no matter what?  Who says, “stop that negative talk, you are a fabulous person, period.”  It may be a partner, a best friend, a sibling -or- it may be God (Infinite Intelligence, The Source of our Lives, whatever you call It) the one who created you in Its image and likeness.  Can you honestly say that you are not acceptable when you use that person’s eyes (or the eyes of the Presence)?  No way, you begin to stutter or get silent, you certainly don’t continue being like you were before you became consciously aware of this long-held pattern of looking at yourself in the mirror.  Start tonight, start tomorrow, just start having that intense awareness of what you are saying to you – and then most likely – changing it.  Surprising things will begin to occur, startling understanding will emerge, people that said those things to you will come into focus so that you can deal with them.  The invitation is yours, are you going to pick it up and do it?

2. Next, be willing to take 100% responsibility for EVERYTHING that is happening in your world, whether you believe you are the “victim” of certain circumstances of not.

3. Begin immediately to do at least one action that is outside of your ordinary way of doing or being.  In other words, be outrageous (not endangering yourself or others), just step outside of the limits you unknowingly have placed around your life.

4. As you do the above activity, make it uncommon, far out FOR YOU to consider and one which can benefit you in some way, like building a birdhouse when you’ve never picked up a hammer or driving over to a friend’s house and leaving a note (or flowers) on their doorstep.  I imagine you’ve thought of a few by now.  Don’t censor yourself, rather unlimit yourself.  

5. Next, write a paragraph about how it felt to move beyond your “normal” way of thinking, acting, doing, and being.  Write about what you imagined before doing your uncommon activity, and how you see yourself and your world now that you’ve accomplished the action.  If you have really experimented with and been honest about the above steps, you are moving into the land of possibilities, a land where new vistas can be seen.  The horizon of your particular life has just expanded and YOU did it.

6. Okay, now focus your attention on what you think a miracle is.  I am guessing it is some form of “I’d like one but I don’t know how to have it occur” or “I don’t really believe in miracles.”  Think of a time in your life where something extraordinary happened, something you didn’t think could occur AND it did.  I know you have at least occurrence you can consider here.  When you have one in mind, notice that the miracle happened in spite of your particular belief.

7. Other miracles can show up in your life now IF you consciously choose to look for them and you have shifted your perception of the “way things are,” “the way your world is set up,” to the impossible happening.  For the next four days, take the time to be in the world of miracles (unlimited possibilities)/  They are happening around you right now but your perception and your beliefs keep you from noticing them.

8. After 4 days, it you haven’t yet seen and or experienced at least one miracle you are probably still in the land of skepticism.  Open yourself to the unknown more.  Stay tuned in to what is present right now in your world that you hadn’t paid attention to before this moment.  At first, it may seem small or not even in the category of the miraculous.  Look again.  Expand your fenced-in notions of what a miracle, a possibility, an unlimiting thought would be.  Remember, giving up the small area of the room you’ve lived in a lot of your life to explore a mansion with open doors everywhere is necessary for possibilities to enter.  Begin walking out of the room towards the rest of the house immediately.  This action means literally stepping out of what you know is comfortable, secure (and a little boring) to vast realms of adventurous, mystifying, but intriguing explorations.

9. Allow, allow, allow the old beliefs of what your world has been and must be to fade away and let in the newness, the glory, the ecstasy of that splendor you are beginning to unleash, to unimprison.

10. After all, what DO you want to do with you one wild and precious life??? Whatever it is, continue to know that, if you are having fun, playing this life intentionally but lightly, you can dwell in this world of possibilities.  The reward is inherent in the process and this possibility world gives back to you the magic and wonder a child naturally creates.

What do you think your purpose is?  How close to your calling, your message from your Soul, are you?  Is what you are doing what you know you are to do here at this time in your life?  If so, hurray for you.  If not, when do you think you might start doing and being what you came here to do and to be?  The time is now, the openings you have missed are probably many, due to your just not paying attention to what was being whispered into your “ear” (through hunches, nudges, intuitive waves of clarity).  You are here for something so much greater than you have been willing to embrace, I am imagining.  You haven’t even touched the huge calling that has been waiting  for you to embrace it and run with it.  What have you been doing instead, what have you said to yourself that made it okay to ignore this enormous, glorious undertaking that only you are here to do.  No one else was given this particular assignment, you were.  I sense that you have an inkling of what it is but don’t want to think about it for very long – just a fleeting second, a fleeting glimpse of what it truly is.

Oh yes, your Soul has been trying to get your attention, yes it has.  When will you get still enough to let It tell you Its Knowings.  Now?  Next week?  Next year?  What are you waiting for?  I mean, really, what are you doing to stop yourself from “going for it, whatever “it” is?  I know, fear, in all its many disguises.  Underneath it all, it is fear – fear of failure and fear of success.  That about covers it, doesn’t it?  Well, I urge you to reconsider the timing, the world is waiting for you to come out of hiding and gift us all with your doing your thing, your particular, unique thing.  You don’t have to study anymore to know how to do what it is – you have the knowledge inside of you, the answers came in with you, your Soul has kept them very neatly in a place that is immediately accessible to you, you just have to be open to receiving.  Open, like a beautiful bud that gives us its inside majestic part at the exact moment it is meant to open.  Have you ever watched that bud from beginning to the end, have you noticed that most of the buds open up at night?  That seems like a great metaphor for us today, doesn’t it?  We usually don’t even think about changing what we are doing or questioning our calling until we are “in the dark times” of our lives – things aren’t feeling too great that we are doing day after day.  We are a bit depressed, perhaps, or just discontented with where we are at this time in our lives.

Come now, walk into the Light, the wisdom is right beyond your mind’s excuses for staying where you are. Stop listening to your mind and start listening carefully to your heart, your Spirit, your Essence, your Soul.  What a magnificent discovery you will find, not when you reason it all out, but rather when you turn off the analysis of it all and just flow with your revelations as they come to you – they don’t make “sense” sometimes but you follow those hunches, those intuitive inklings and a whole new world will appear – it will seem out of nowhere, but really it has been there all the time.  You had to take off the old pair of glasses and the worn-out ear plugs and allow the astounding True Self to appear.  Welcome that Brand New You, unrecognizable yet somehow familiar.  Life is just beginning – again.  Things will now become effortless.  Energy will be boundless and you will be a new alleluia from head to toe.  ”Thank you, O my Soul, for this new me” you will be whispering.